NEW RELEASE: Seducers Among Our Children – Chapter by Chapter Synopsis

Seducers Among Our Children – A Police Investigator’s Perspective by Patrick Crough

RELEASED BY LIGHTHOUSE TRAILS PUBLISHING ON OCTOBER 10TH, 2012

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SECTION I: UNDERSTANDING THE SEDUCER
Chapter 1: Mother’s Intuition
On a warm spring night in May 1994, 5-year-old Kali begged her mom, Judy Gifford, to allow her to go outside to play on her Big Wheel tricycle. Judy was preparing magazines that she was to deliver that evening. The two would go together for the deliveries. The small amount of money that this single mother made from her second job was to pay for a family trip to Disney World the following summer. As Judy put the flyers together, Kali became more and more anxious to go outside. She was looking forward to going to McDonald’s after the deliveries were completed. Finally, Judy relented and told Kali to stay right near the front door. Five minutes later, she went to check on Kali, and she was gone. It was the last time she would ever see her daughter alive.

Chapter 2: Recognizing a Seducer
There are some key elements in being able to recognize a child predator. The book explains the difference between pedophiles, sexual offenders, child molesters, and child predators. It also examines reasons that cause some men to begin molesting children, addressing the huge role that pornography plays in this deviant behavior.

Chapter 3: Ways of the Seducer: Predatory Stages
Lists and describes in detail the following phases used by sexual predators to seduce their potential victims:

a/the trust phase: First, the predator must win the trust of both the parents and the child. This is done through various means, and the predator often patiently takes his time to accomplish this.
b/the courtship phase: The predator’s sole purpose in the courtship phase is similar to that of a young male suitor courting a young woman who has captivated his interest.
c/the seduction phase: After the predator has “groomed” the victim, he then begins to introduce the child to inappropriate behavior, for example, allowing the child or young teen to watch an R rated movie with sexual content at the predator’s home.
d/the offending stage: This is where the predator actually commits the abuse. Many times the child can be silenced because he has been made to feel guilt, shame, and responsibility for what has happened.
e/the control phase: “The control phase can last a lifetime. Long after a child has broken free from the actual abuse, he or she may still feel the almost too-heavy-to-bear ball and chain of despair, resentment, hopelessness, and hatred that connect him or her to the abuser.”

SECTION II: CASE EXAMPLES

 Chapter 4: The Helpful Neighbor
A helpful and friendly neighbor and his bed-ridden wife befriend a young neighbor couple and their son. The unsuspecting parents allowed the man to take their son on frequent walks around the apartment complex so they could have some time alone on occasion. The results of this “friendship” were disastrous.

Chapter 5: The Stepfather Who Liked to Watch Porn
A thirty-year-old stepfather began introducing his stepdaughter to porn as a way to groom her for his planned sexual abuse. The victim was alone with her stepfather for a considerable portion of the day while her mother was at work. The man did not possess a criminal record nor had any sexually related allegations ever been made against him. In fact, he was even on friendly terms with a few of the Northeast district uniformed patrol officers who patronized the restaurant he worked at. In time, the stepfather began to carry out the abuse.

Chapter 6: The Highly Esteemed Coach
The predator in this case was a thirty-nine-year-old former Olympic champion gymnast from an Eastern European nation. His wife (and business partner) was also a world champion gymnast, and they had three children of their own. They had established themselves as a highly respected, successful coaching tandem, both nationally and internationally. The thirteen-year-old victim in this case was a member of an elite junior female team of approximately ten gymnasts who competed internationally.

Chapter 7: “Time to be Nice”
In this case example, the predator was the girl’s biological father. The suspect was a successful homebuilder and businessman, living in an upper middle-class community with his family. The young woman had experienced a psychological breakdown and disclosed to her boyfriend, and later to a school counselor, that her father had been sexually abusing her for the past nine years (since she was about 9 years old). Her father’s favorite phrase, “time to be nice” was the girl’s cue that her father wanted something.

Chapter 8: Child Predators & Day Care Facilities
A four year old girl is sexually abused by the father of one of the other little day care girls. The young victim told the investigators that her classmate’s dad took her into the bathroom and told her it was a “special check day.”

Chapter 9: “My Best Friend’s Dad”
The victim’s best friend’s dad was a successful OB/GYN doctor. The abuse took place over a three-year period during sleepovers at the doctor’s house. The suspect constantly spoke with the victim over the computer. He insisted she call him by his first name. The suspect became very openly affectionate toward the victim as her sleepovers increased in frequency, many as the result of his personal invite. At times, they were alone. When Investigator Crough heard about the abuse from the victim and her mother, it was obvious that the doctor was grooming her for sexual intercourse.

Chapter 10: The Popular School Teacher
The male teen victim told the investigators that the teacher, who was friendly with his parents, had recruited the victim to work part-time for him at his residence and car business. Over the late spring and summer months while he was working for him, the teacher engaged him in nearly a dozen separate incidents of sexual activity that included oral sex and sodomy. First, he began to show the victim photos, videos, and computer images of men and boys having sex together. He would reward the victim for his silence by buying him gifts and taking him out to eat, all while he was getting paid.

Chapter 11: “In Just Twenty Minutes”
The suspect was a thirty-eight year old male who befriended a group of single mothers. He became particularly friendly to a five-year-old girl and her mother in the duplex next door to him. One winter evening, the suspect transported his neighbor, her daughter, and a ten-year-old mutual female to a friend’s house in a suburban neighborhood. Once they arrived, the girls went down to the playroom in the basement with the friend’s children while the adults remained upstairs in the kitchen and visited over coffee. Eventually, the suspect went down to the basement to “check on the kids.” The suspect sat on the sofa and watched the children play. A short time later, one of the mothers went downstairs to check on things and returned upstairs. That was when the suspect made his move.

Chapter 12: Two Legacies of Evil
In case one, a thirty-nine-year old adult male befriended neighborhood seven and eight year old boys, often playing basketball with them. Eventually, he began showing the boys pornography in order to arouse their sexuality. When the abuse was finally disclosed, it came out that over thirty one boys had been sexually assaulted by this man. This became a high profile case.

With case two, a twenty-seven year old male worked at the local middle school and was also a deacon at his church. He particularly sought out young males who were lacking a father figure at home. The suspect would gain the trust of the boys’ mothers by offering his time and attention to their sons to help groom them into productive young men. What struggling mother would not have welcomed assistance from someone who seemed so nice and so caring? He pledged to be their personal mentor, kept an eye on them at school, and steered them away from trouble. Sadly, his intentions were sinister and evil, and he found opportunity to act out on these intentions. As many child predators do, this suspect placed his confidence in believing that shame, embarrassment, and fear of exposure would prevent these witnesses from testifying against him.

Chapter 13: Three Trampled Roses
This chapter is about three girls who were kidnapped, raped, and murdered in the 1970s in the Rochester, New York area. Investigator Crough was part of the investigating team. The victims were identified as Carmen Colon, Wanda Walkowicz, and Michelle Maenza.

SECTION III: PREVENTIVE TOOLS, RESOURCES, & PRACTICAL ADVICE

Chapter 14: What Can You Do to Prevent Your Children from Being Seduced and Molested?
There are some practical and down to earth ideas that can help you protect your children. Investigator Crough talks about some of these ideas, which include things like sharing a special meal out with your child, keeping the communication lines open, and monitoring Internet activity carefully.

Chapter 15: Common Risk Factors for Sexual Abuse
There is a high correlation between the breakdown of the family institution and sexual abuse of our children. With more single parent homes and two working parent homes, children are in more danger of being abused by stepfathers, live in boyfriends, day care providers, older children, and others.

Chapter 16: Parents and Guardians – The Lord’s Shepherds
Parents and guardians have been appointed to feed and care for God’s children, both physically and spiritually (1 Timothy 5:8, Ephesians 6:4). It is up to us to lay the right moral foundation and encourage them to cultivate a personal relationship with our Heavenly Father through Jesus Christ. It is wise for us to take a look at each verse of this psalm and consider how we should incorporate it into caring for our assigned flock of lambs.

Chapter 17: Protect Your Children With Prayer & the Word
As parents, we know that many dangers, both physical and spiritual, surround our children. It is for this very reason we should call upon God’s Holy Spirit to protect our children, comfort us, and take away our needless worry. And we should bury deep within our hearts God’s Word that is a “twoedged sword” that will give us discernment.

Chapter 18: Safety Check List
As you make decisions and monitor your children’s activities, consider the Safety Check List that Investigator Crough has developed. Be diligent in safeguarding your children from those inside their social circles using these principles, and you will automatically protect them from those outside their circles.

Chapter 19: Potential Signs of Sexually Abused Child
Frequently children who have been sexually offended will display changes in their behavior long before they verbalize what had occurred. Many times parents of victims have observed one or more indicators, but understandably, they never suspected it was the result of being sexually abused.

Chapter 20: Safety Tips for Churches & Community Organizations
If your children are involved in a church or community organization, check to see if a policy is in place to prevent children from being molested by an adult or older child. If a policy is in place, take a close look at it. Is it sufficient to keep your child safe? Is it being followed? When it comes to the safety of your children, don’t rely on others to address the weaknesses of the safety policy. Roll up your sleeves and work to implement a better one.

Chapter 21: Reporting & Investigating Crimes Against Children
Often, someone who has learned that a child is being sexually abused is not sure what to do. But child sexual abuse needs to be reported to authorities. It is a crime. The Bible tells us to submit to the government and its laws as long as they do not order us to break God’s laws.

Chapter 22: Discerning the Voice of a Child
Unfortunately, too many juries have believed a child who is on the stand at a trial but felt led not to convict on the grounds there wasn’t any physical evidence to corroborate the child’s testimony. However, most sexual abuse cases don’t have physical evidence. They rely solely on the voice of a child. And studies have proven that children rarely lie about sexual abuse.

Chapter 23: Consequences of Abuse in Our Homes, Our Churches, & Our Communities
The fact is, where there is sexual abuse, there is upheaval, violence, and the demise of a home, a church, or a community. The connection is there.

Chapter 24: Closing Arguments
This chapter is written by an assistant district attorney in New York. She gives various examples of actual abuse cases in an effort to show the reader that abuse does happen and in the most unsuspecting situations.

SECTION IV FINAL WORDS

Chapter 25: A Mother’s Final Words
A moving and emotional letter written by Kali Poulton’s mother to her murdered five-year-old daughter.

Chapter 26: A Calling, a Ministry, & a Mission Field
Patrick shares some of his testimony in this chapter and how he came to see the work he does as a calling and a ministry. He also talks about the heart of God when it comes to abused children.

Chapter 27: Ask Jesus for Help
A special personal note for those who have been sexually abused as children.

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