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From The Color of Pain – Myths About Boys Who Are Abused (and the men they become)

May 19th, 2012 Posted in Excerpts | Comments Off on From The Color of Pain – Myths About Boys Who Are Abused (and the men they become)

By Gregory Reid

Author of The Color of Pain (Lighthouse Trails)


It is not a widespread problem.


One in every ten men & boys, and some say one in six has possibly been molested in some form.


Most molesters are dirty old men.


Most predators are highly intelligent career people with community respect and a good income.


Most predators are stranger to the child.


Stranger molestation is the exception, and most boys know their molesters well, as relatives for whom trust comes naturally or family friends or people in authority who have pursued the child to seduce them over a long period of time.


Abuse must be forced or violent to be called rape.


Any time an adult lures a child to sexual acts it’s rape.


If the abuse was pleasurable for the boy, it was not rape.


Sex is a biological stimulus. Feeling pleasure may be a natural, but it is still a crime that a powerful, older person took an underage child or teen and used them for their own gratification and the psychological and emotional damage done to the child is still just as real.


Most victims become abusers.


This is largely a jailhouse excuse for predators. Some do go on to abuse: some become violent but most just live self- destructive, miserable lives until they get help. But the fact is most boys who were molested do notgrow up to molest. Furthermore, when a victim of abuse commits himself to the Lord and God’s Word as a born-again Christian, an avenue for true healing is opened. (Quote by Patrick Crough (Retired police sargeant NY, Seducers Among Us, LT, Fall 2012: While being abused as a child has caused many to suffer from depression, anger, and mistrust, I strongly believe that it doesn’t cause the person to become an offender when they are an adult. I know too many victims of child abuse who would never consider abusing a child. In fact, many survivors would seriously consider killing a predator if they discovered one abusing a child close to them.)


Non forced abuse makes the boy responsible.


No child is ever responsible for being raped.


It happens to other people’s kids.


Molestation of boys is one of the most unreported crimes that exists. It COULD be your child. Communication, unconditional love, and acceptance is the only way to keep the door open to your son if something does or did happen.

Excerpt from The Color of Pain (Lighthouse Trails)

A Boy Who Was Abused – A God Who Delivered

Feb 21st, 2012 Posted in Excerpts | Comments Off on A Boy Who Was Abused – A God Who Delivered

By Greg Reid
(author of The Color of Pain)

In my autobiography, Nobody’s Angel, I tell the story of my life, and how the first eleven years of my childhood were a black hole of emptiness. Things had happened, but they had been so horrific I had entered into a world of Forget. I went from a once polite, gentle, God-loving child, changed overnight into a slovenly, sexualized, angry, hard-drinking, rebellious, destructive, secretive, occult-addicted pre-adolescent. My father asked me once,“Whatever happened to that neat little boy I used to know?”

“He died a long time ago, Pop,” I replied, though I knew he couldn’t understand.

Starting at eleven-years-old, I entered the world of the occult. I was drawn into the darkness of it and never could grasp why. I was exploited by predators, raped, and abused and experienced all types of evil. This went on until I felt that I was at the brink of death. A staggering sense of loss and grief had become my constant companions. By the time I was fifteen, I had lived what felt like an entire pathetic life.

I guess my parents should have asked more questions about the changes in me, but at the time they were struggling with serious health issues, and their lives couldn’t take on anymore than what was already consuming them.

In the spring of my 15th year, I met a man hitchhiking who turned out to be a Christian. He gave me a copy of a book called The Cross and The Switchblade. It was the story of Dave Wilkerson, a skinny Pennsylvania preacher, who went to New York and faced down the worst, most deadly gang leader in New York, Nicky Cruz, and told him Jesus loved him. Nicky beat him up. Dave kept on him, and Nicky finally became a Christian.

Eventually, after some very dramatic events, I too surrendered my life to Jesus Christ and became a Christian. Had that not happened, I believe I would have died before ever reaching the age of twenty. I had been on a road to destruction.

Over the next few years, I continued to heal under the protection of some dear Christian friends and a seventy-six-year-old Baptist saint who took me in and loved me and taught me about God’s unconditional love. I devoured the Scriptures, and they broke the lies. I fought a vicious battle with sexual issues, depression, unhealthy relationships, deep loneliness, and a smoldering rage.

I went immediately into “ministry” at sixteen, and before I was twenty-six, had been around the world. The occult, and demonic influence, had wrapped itself in every fiber of my being, and God gently and firmly took me out of it all.

The-Color-Of-PainHow was I to know that everything inside me would fall apart in my twenties, when as a respected teacher and youth leader, I would have to face a nightmare worse than anything I could imagine? God was now ready for the ordeal to come to me that I know broke His heart, but would be the final deliverance and revelation of who I was and where I had been. I was about to go to the gates of hell—not as a warrior—but as a wanted man, a traitor to the devil, and a terrified child. Those first forgotten eleven years of my life were about to intrude into my adult existence. I had to go back into the dark and empty corridors of my forgotten past to retrieve the truth and, in so doing, become fully prepared to go to war against the satanic powers, organizations, and occult rulers who continue to destroy the lives of thousands of innocent children today.

It was the summer of my twentieth year, and I was home from Bible school for three months. It was the beginning of the crack in the wall that would lead to my descent into the mouth of my satanic past. Nearly a decade would pass before all of the horrible ugly truth came out. But the Lord was with me all along the way; and today I can say that He has healed me. Yes, there are and always will be scars, but His love and His Word have been my Deliverer.  (from chapter 1, The Color of Pain, Greg Reid, Lighthouse Trails)

Memoir by abused boy is important, tough to read

Sep 15th, 2011 Posted in Book/DVD Reviews | Comments Off on Memoir by abused boy is important, tough to read
by Diana Washington Valdez \ El Paso Times

The-Color-Of-Pain“The Color of Pain: Boys Who are Sexually Abused and the Men They Become” by Gregory R. Reid (Lighthouse Trails Publishing, $10.95),


Young boys who are sexually abused are not likely to talk about it as adults, much less to report it. Such abuse may involve ordeals of extreme brutality meant to injure the body and destroy the psyche.

Gregory R. Reid knows this firsthand. He is a survivor who has written a book about the harrowing experiences he lived through in hopes that others like him will reach out for and receive healing.

The book, “The Color of Pain: Boys Who are Sexually Abused and the Men They Become” (Lighthouse Trails Publishing, $10.95), will evoke strong emotions from readers — who will prefer to believe they are reading fiction instead of someone’s memoir.

Some passages in Reid’s book are repulsive. They are supposed to be that way. Society recoils at the thought of children being attacked in any way.

“I’m a male sexual-abuse survivor,” Reid writes. “I am also a ritual abuse survivor. I am rare and belong to a company of men and boys, mostly silent and scared.”

The El Paso author tells his story in only 104 pages that are hard to forget. The account of incidents he describes are riveting and make the reader want to follow along to find out whether he ever recovers the childhood he lost in California. Some events he chronicles occurred within the context of ritual abuse.

The book comes with warnings that its contents should not be read by young children and that adults should use good judgment in deciding the right age for young people to read it.


Book Review: The Color of Pain – Boys who are sexually abused and the men they become

May 1st, 2011 Posted in Book/DVD Reviews | Comments Off on Book Review: The Color of Pain – Boys who are sexually abused and the men they become

BOOK REVIEW BY BOOKS AND CHOCOLATE[The Color of Pain] is [Gregory Reid’s] story but it is also a book of facts that includes topics such as looking for the signs of sexual abuse, where predators hunt, myths about abused boys, what a victim looks like, why men and boys don’t talk about their abuse, and what not to tell abused boys and men. I felt the author did an excellent job in addressing the pain and issues surrounding abuse without being graphic.
I’m grateful that this is not something I know about first-hand (at least not that I’m aware of), but after reading this book I feel I can recommend it as a valuable resource to anyone who has been a victim, knows someone who is, or is a professional counselor, pastor, teacher, or parent of sons who needs to know what signs to look for and how to respond.

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